Balancing relationships: giving and taking

Relationships between couples, friends and business contacts should be balanced. But the idea really on how much you can give and how much you expect your partners to respond to your giving has naturally more to do on how you feel and think about giving. Why do you give so much? Do you see giving as fun and fulfilling? The whole idea of balancing relationships starts with you, your thoughts, your feelings and your expectations.

People are created different from each other. That is reality. We do have different needs. I do not want to focus on filling the needs of others in this article but rather talk on how to fill your need first. Because by finding ways on how to fill your needs first you will know how intense the response you expect from your partners. This will then define self fulfillment, comfort and satisfaction. First let us define what you need to receive and what you find fulfilling to give.



This is rather difficult for one who may be seeing their selves for the first time. Take your time listing and defining what you need and what you want to give. Like for example my need is friendship, real honest friendship which is rather hard to find if you expect it from the wrong person who may not be able to give the kind of friendship you need. What I do is give out the kind of friendship and support to people who come in my doorstep the way I feel and think real friendship should be. This means giving out the kind of friendship I see in my own terms and I don’t expect anything in return out of it because I just want to give out real friendship.

Then I realized that as I progress with my relationships I mean friendly relationships with my clients they also give the kind of friendship I like to receive. They responded to their level of how they perceived friendship should be in a business level. But I am already comfortable with that. I know they distinctly separate friendship and business. Reverse for me I mix friendship and business. It gives me a more relax environment to work on and give them real time support because I care on the friendship and their businesses.



The reason I give full support to my customers is because I want to see their businesses grow and them successful. Because I know that I will always be part of that success and it is already very fulfilling for me to be able to give my effort and whole energy to help them succeed. I want to be part of their lives in a way that they will see my value as a committed reliable contractor and caring friend. I see the world differently. And because this is my need and this is what I intend to give, I find it fun and fulfilling to work for any task that they send to me.

Scorekeeping and thinking about what you receive in return will never prosper with any friendship more on any marriages. Don’t take count of what your partners can do and can’t give. You can change the course of your life but it will be up for the person or your partners to seek their own change. If you want to balance your relationship, learn to accept your partner’s liabilities and learn to be more creative in carrying out your day-to-day task. You can even be creative when dealing with your partners. What is important is that you take each person’s attributes objectively and find how those attributes will fit in to your needs and standards.
Reference: http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/relationships/20530/unbalanced-relationship;_ylc=X3oDMTFvb3RhMHZiBF9TAzI3MTYxNDkEc2VjA2ZwX3RvZGF5BHNsawN1bmJhbGFuY2VkLXJlbGF0aW9uc2hpcAR6egNh



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