managing separation and divorce

The meaning of lost love and letting go - freedom to take your life back without controlling. You don't have to control anything not even your emotions. Women have to let go of what's destroying their lives and is giving them much stress, disappointments and pressures in life. The issue of mutuality in the decision to divorce or separate shall be well thought of not violently, not for spur of the moment pride's sake but the act of accepting and facing reality. Losing love and parting or ending investments: love, time and that chapter of your life.

When husbands show coldness and does not care for you anymore especially when you are ill, it's time to face the pain of reality - let go. You got to give your man the freedom to love another woman no matter what heartache it brings. Don't go after him and try to persuade your man to return to you. Never teach yourselves to plead for more tears because once his eyes are set to someone else it would be very difficult to live with dying emotions.


It takes a lot of courage and patience to make arrangements without quarrel. Never forsake your responsibility for the children. They do have a good life ahead. Our first priority shall be always to protect their emotions and whatever negative effects this divorce or separation may have on them. Inasmuch as we want everything to flow smoothly with less drama at home we got to face that in times like this we don't manage our emotions that well.

We don't have to exert any effort to control our emotions. Let go and let the tears flow. Take each day as it comes never forgetting your love and responsibility for the children. We may be in the state of mourning for our lost world but sometimes it just have to be it for mutual peace. But remember if you show your kids too much tears and depression it may have negative psychological effects on them. The best way to counter is to write what you feel merely expressing maybe without thinking just to let go. You have a notebook don't you?

Women never turn to the comfort of other men, never open up yourself for another relationship yet not even sex. It will make things worse hopping affairs seeking lost love with relationships that don't have meaning yet. Give yourself time to complete your mourning period plainly doing your day-to-day activities. Never jump to another relationship without completely getting over your broken heart, just not yet. When you find yourself again, built your world again without him and the scars of your pain are already serving as bad memories then that would be the perfect day for you to say you are ready for another relationship.

We need the love and the caring from the right man in the proper time when we are ready for it. People come and go in our lives and sometimes we just have to stand still and close our eyes. Right close our eyes and for a moment pray this feeling of pain and loneliness will be gone for good. Work... work.... work... get yourselves preoccupied when it is still hurting to prevent depression, be productive. Live and just breath nothing else, no controlling of emotions, just live and just breath. Take care ladies.


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