Youth violence; What we can do about it?

I have made it clear for my past blogs that youth violence has something to do with going home to an empty house. These young people need parents to constantly guide them and that's what we call in simplest terms parental guidance. How can you ever monitor your kids activities when parents are not living with them to know every change? Tell me. How much lives shall this independence cost?

These kids are not models for studies. They are our children and they need sense of belongingness. Experts must know that the bet way to handle difficulties is having love and care around us when we need them not only when we phone them in. That is a very big difference. They can be kids and they will learn life the natural way. Each of us humans have unique attributes and we have to focus on those who seem to fall on drugs and everything.

How can I tell experts that what they need is to belong to a home and not an apartment or a house. A home with parents and brothers and sisters in it. A home that has the positive emotional support in it. If you continue to study about how children should cope up with depression, problems, and stress, you will only solve a portion of the problem. I've read it a year ago, teens who live separately from their parents find themselves lonely and sometimes not able to know what to do.

We don't have to phone in parents. They should be there when we come home. Family is very important and kids are getting lost along the way because of this. How can one get the sense of belongingness and feel the caring if they treat or maybe regard parents as friends where you have to phone in to make an appointment for a visit. Quality time is very important between families to create bonding and strengthen relationships.

This is one funny example. A teen ager boy called her mom to say hi. He got problems but can't talk it over the phone. He needs to talk to her mom or dad personally. When called this is what he said: "Hi mom how are you? Can I come on Sunday night for dinner? I would love to talk to you about a problem but it sure can wait 'til Sunday night." And mom or dad answered: "Hi son, you're a big guy now. You can solve your problems. We have a charity program on Sunday night so maybe you an give us a call again next week to see if we can get together for dinner sometime."

I bet the son won't call again. What does this mean? The son is looking for advice, support, or help and mom or dad is busy helping charity programs. What does this mean again? Being away from parents lessens the bonding. Son will go to other people to ask for help or in the process get influence by bad habits to solve problem. Parents when far from children can't feel much responsibility or maybe empathize the change that youth brings to their sons because they are far and they can't see their sons well. There's a saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder, this is in the case of the son sometimes it can make both parties cold. What happens with bonding and sense of belongingness then? Most of the time youth feels empty inside and try to do other things to feel his time.

Reference: http://edition.cnn.com/2007/US/12/07/youth.violence/index.html







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